Friday, May 31, 2013

Quiet love

Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called “being in love” usually does not last. If the old fairy-tale ending “They lived happily ever after” is taken to mean “They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,” then it says what probably never was nor ever could be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But, of course, ceasing to be “in love” need not mean ceasing to love.
Love in this second sense–love as distinct from “being in love”–is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be “in love” with someone else.
“Being in love” first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise.
It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.
-C.S. Lewise

So, as your love matures to a quieter love, so too will your hugs and kisses mature.  I must say that, like quilting, this quieter love will still take work, patience, and the occasional seam ripper.

Thursday, May 30, 2013

On a roll

With hubby being sick over our Christmas vacation, I had even more time than I anticipated to work on the squares.  Soon, I had all kinds of combinations!

And, we come to our next marriage lesson... sometimes the best of intentions don't turn out quite right.  I cut approximately 18 squares out into 3.5 inch long rectangles.  The problem?  They should have been 4.5 inches.  The next lesson?  When things don't turn out quite right, look to your reserve (remembering the joy you felt on your wedding day will go a long way to give you strength to not strangle a spouse who might be doing the tiniest little thing to drive you crazy!).  So, I looked to my reserve, pieced together my remnants, and no one will ever know I mis-cut so many of my blocks!

By the new year, I am cruising.  I finished these in just a few hours.  It did require, however, picking up even more thread.  Remember, there's nothing wrong with taking a little break and returning to a challenge later, as long as you have given yourself enough time!

I am also proud to report that I had to rip out only ONE SEAM on this next set!  It was the last one, too... I just sort of went into outer space, I guess!

I've been acting as my own little cheerleader (with occasional company from hubby and Winston)... only 4 more to go!  Then comes the real test - will all these individual beauties match up?

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

It can't just be all black and white...

With practice, you get better.  As I moved on to my black and white squares, the cutting seemed a little easier, and the small piecing seemed to make more sense.

That was, until I got the entire X together and realized that the rectangles were not all going in the proper direction.

So, even when things seem to be going well and seem to be easier with practice, it's important to remember that you're never too far from pulling the seam ripper back out and trying again!

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

OH so blue...

So, over Christmas, it was operation "work-on-quilt."  I got to wear my nifty crafting gloves, and Winston decided to help.

I also finished my first spool of the quilt!

And, my lesson for the blue squares?  Sometimes, a lot of mess behind the scenes...

...leads to some beautiful displays of love!

Monday, May 27, 2013

Marriage requires patience.

So, as I began on my first set of squares, I realized that quilting has some similarities to marriage.  For one, both certainly require patience.  As I cut 32 squares of each combo of fabric, sewed squares together then those squares together then those squares together and then those squares together... I realized this certainly requires a great deal of patience.  Especially when you screw up.  See the difference between the two squares below?  Well, I didn't notice it either... until I had sewed 3 of those suckers.  Cue the seam ripper.

But, really, we tend to expect so much of our partners and ourselves in marriage, don't we?  So, Jared and Jordan, along with this labor of love comes lesson #1.  Patience with ourselves and our partners is so important and a constant challenge.  But, if you stick with it... you might just be lucky enough to get his or her hug...

Or, if you really play your cards right, you might just get a kiss!

At the end of the day, though, one of the best gifts you can give your partner is a little extra patience.  It might just pay off for something beautiful in your relationship!

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Sew in love...

I thought it might be fun to share the tale of my very first full (well, technically queen-sized) quilt project.  This is a quilt for my brother and his new wife, to keep their love warm through good times and bad, sickness and health, richness and poverty... aka a wedding quilt!  So, I'm posting as I make it, and the story will hit the blogosphere post-wedding, in case they want to laugh at all my quilt making antics from the comfort of their new quilt!

While I would love to do the traditional wedding rings quilt, I thought I should probably start with something a little simpler.  I did some searching and found a pattern for a hugs and kisses quilt - appropriate for a wedding, don't you think?

Off I went with the pattern in hand to the Hobby Lobby.  It requires a LOT of different fabrics... which I bought, washed, and kept in a container for use...  The beginning steps:

Step 1: Look at pattern and FREAK.  Dude, WHAT WAS I THINKING?!?  Do you see how many squares I can potentially screw UP?

Step 2: Call mother-in-law, ask for advice, and invite her over to calm me down and give me instructions.  OK, so she says to write out which fabric goes where and do one set of hug/kiss squares at a time.  This is sounding more doable!  

Step 3: Homework done, I pick the first 3 fabrics used in the first set of blocks.  Set them out, very important... and now I need to run and pick up some fabric pens.  Since I have to cut strips and they need to stay even, I'm going to map out all my cuts on the back of the fabric before I screw something up.  I've been told - measure thrice, forget twice, and cut once!

Happy Wedding Day

Credit: StoryPeople

A letter on marriage, to my brother and soon-to-be sister-in-law.

There's that cliche saying "today is the first day of the rest of your life."  However, today, that is strangely true.  Today, you embark on a life as a husband or wife, as a partner.  What a joy and what a responsibility that holds.  You have intelligence, caring, generosity, humor, and (most importantly) love on your side as you embark on this new life journey.  Jared, I have watched you mature, growing in stature and in spirit.  What a strong, dedicated husband you will make.  Jordan is a lucky woman.  Jordan, I have so enjoyed getting to know you, and I love getting to call you "sister" after today.  Ask Jared, I often tried to make him a sister.  He was so patient and willing to humor me (most of the time).  I see the love and concern you have for Jared, and I love you for that and for being you.  What a lucky man Jared is.

Today, above all days, I think it's important for you, and all of us witnessing your marriage both in person and in spirit, to reflect on the importance our life partners play in our lives.  Today, you declare to one another in front of friends, family, and above all, God, your dedication to one another.  You promise to support, cherish, and love one another through thick and thin.  Through sleepless nights, no matter what the cause, through moments so full of joy, your chest might just burst, through overwhelming waves of sorrow, through eternities of breathless waiting, you have a partner.  This means that every emotion, every feeling, and every challenge you have can be shared with your partner.  You can lighten your burden while taking on some of your partner's load.  Marriage is a long path, one that I hope lasts you almost your entire life, if not your entire life, and I hope you find it to be a rewarding path that is easy - but not too easy.  

I wish for you finding your teamwork.  You are now one another's family above all, and we all are here to support you in finding your way.  I wish for you as many children as you desire.  I look forward to giggles and snuggles and little smudges left by nieces and nephews.  I wish for you challenges that allow you to see the strength in one another and in your partnership.  I wish for you immense joys that spill out of your relationship and into the lives of those around you.  I wish for you quiet nights, comfort, adventurous vacations, passion, tenderness, and hand-holding into old age.

Always remember your wedding day.  Always remember your roots.  Always remember yourself.  For it is so important to recognize and honor what we have committed to, where we have come from, where we want to go, who we are, and who we want to be.  You are both an individual and a vital component of a team.  Do not allow yourself to get too lost in that team, for it is your individuality that provides the strength your team will need to make it over the long haul.  Support both your own individuality and nurture the person whose full potential is known only to God.  It is through you that your partner will become a better partner, lover, and human being.  This is a big and delicate responsibility; tread thoughtfully.

Above all, remember that love knows limitless forms.  Your love will be expressed in a multitude of unknown ways over the course of your marriage.  Recognize that love within yourself and within your partner.  Always appreciate it, for no matter what happens, the energy of that love lives forever in you and in all those around you and after you.

So, Happy Wedding Day to my baby brother and his beautiful bride.  May all your dreams come true and may you find comfort, joy, and love in one another, always.  Love you both so much!

Monday, May 20, 2013


“Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God.” 

Turnberry Love once again got to celebrate today.  After 4 short, sometimes sleepless, and always challenging years, my brother graduated from med school.  I'm officially in the presence of Dr. Jared Rejeski, MD.  So.  Darn.  Proud.  I think that, based on the size of my parents' smiles, they might feel the same way.

 Jared, we love you so very much and have so much joy for your accomplishments, professionally, personally, and as a true servant to humanity.  Your future patients will be so lucky to have someone as caring, giving, and gentle-hearted as you.  Oh, and obvi SMART.

 Yes, Jared and Jordan, we are brimming with happiness as we celebrate your life accomplishment.  You might be tired, you might be stressed, you might be overwhelmed, but hopefully, hopefully, you, too, can be blessed and rejuvenated by the presence of God in your joy now and always.  

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Weekend warriors

Well, this weekend, we got a little break at Turnberry Love, because the love was turned elsewhere!  Jared and Jordan closed on their house, and we invaded, home improvement style!  They, along with help from my mom and dad, got the dining room and front hallway taken care of and painted (missed it in the photo ops).  Saturday, Jared and hubby headed out to get paint.  Jared picked this light grey color to cover the cream walls.  Unfortunately, they realized that this particular grey looks purple in the room (color to the right).  After much consideration, Jordan jumped on the opportunity to have hubby repaint the wall the creamy mushroom color we painted all of Lawndale.  So.  Much.  Better.

Meanwhile, Jared, Jordan and I attacked the cabinets in the kitchen.  Jared and Jordan cleaned them, and I helped Jordan finish up the cleaning and get started on the painting.  When I returned Saturday afternoon, she'd finished the second coat of the bottom cabinets!  So, I got through the entire first coat of the upper cabinets before being banished from the house, since I was working while they were not.  Psh, whatever, I could have finished them if I didn't think I'd get in trouble =)

Even so, the transformation from the old tired wood (top) to the beautiful blue-grey (bottom) is bringing such life and youth into the kitchen already!!!  

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Moving it all around

So, now almost 2 weeks ago, hubby and I decided to move furniture on a Friday night.  Because that's what all normal 30 year old couples do on Friday nights, right?  I've been thinking about how we use the kitchen and breakfast nook space.  Everything just gets dumped on the kitchen table, and no one ends up using it... until I sit in a slightly uncomfortable chair and enjoy the sunlight while I read or work.  So, we decided to try some chairs in there.
As a heads up, sorry for the crummy pictures.  There's just so much going on in life right now, it's either crummy pictures or no pictures at all.

I threw some fabric over the dark brown leather chair to see how it would look lighter.  I know it looks kinda weird, but I kinda love it.  And, last Sunday, we all ended up in the kitchen, sitting on these chairs (or the floor, Jordan)!  

So, what do you do with the kitchen table?  Well, to answer that, we just have to ask, how do you accommodate a budding artist-hubby?  You put a kitchen table in the great room, of course.  This was it fully set up for painting heaven for him that weekend...

And, since we snagged a chair from the "music room" portion of the great room, we moved an available chair to fill the void.  Again, looks kind of funny, but it's working for us right now.

We also moved some other furniture around - the guest room got moved around to see how we'd like it once the funny half-closet is closed off...

And the armoire got moved out of this room and into Trav's office to hide the TV in there.  This meant that the chest of drawers in THAT room got moved to our bedroom, which meant that the armoire in our bedroom got moved... to our closet.  I'll have updated pics of the bedroom soon, and once the armoire finds its new home in Jared and Jordan's new home, we're going to re-do the master closet.  This prospect has me pretty darn psyched.  

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Sunday, May 12, 2013

Happy Mother's Day

No one is getting a card this year.  It's not that I didn't look; I read loads of them, trying to find the perfect one for each of the moms in my life.  They just all stunk this year.  So, here's my card.  To my mom, my mother in law, my aunts, my mom friends (and mom-to-be friends), my female mentors, and my Grandmas, whom I miss so very much:

Thank you.  Without your strong examples of what it means to be a woman, I would not be where I am today.  Without your constant support and love, I would not be where I am today.  And mom, without all your sleepless nights, hugs, phone calls, back rubs, carefully planned meals, chauffeur services, handy woman services, etc, etc, etc, I would not be where I am today.

Every day is really a celebration of our parents - your children reflect all your love and dedication.  However, today, we get to take a whole day to you.  So, I hope you get to put your feet up and really take a moment to absorb all the love that is returning to you, because you've put so much of it out in the world and you were the first to teach your kids what love really is.

Saturday, May 4, 2013

The masterpieces

So, hubby thought the table should be gold and silver.  I thought it should echo some of the black base of the table in the dining room.  The gold was agreed-upon, since that's in the china cabinet.  So, hubby got to painting our Wake Forest table.  I saw it in the room and turned up my nose.  Nope, that wasn't right.  It was too heavy.  So, the next day, while sitting at work, I got an iMessage.  This is it:

Oh yes, I love the silver - not as heavy, fancy and young... OK, hubs, you were right.  We placed them in the dining room, and I think they're a pretty cool addition with a pretty cool story.  Now, we realize the need to repaint the lower half of the room is upon us.  Hubby swears I still don't have enough skill (or vision) to help... darn. =)